My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years, and we have lived together for most of that time. I am 24, and he is 41. We currently live in a very cole climate, which I have dreamt of leaving ever since I was a child. I hate the cold and snow, and suffer from seasonal affective disorder and fibromyalgia. The long cold winters make it very hard on me, and i constantly dream of moving to florida or california. My boyfriend knows how hard winters are on me, and we have agreed that we would move together in a "few" years. A year ago, we agreed that we would try to move in two years. This year, he told me 3 or 4 more years until his son gets older. He told me not to pressure him. In all honesty, i dont like his son as he is very judgemental and spoiled, so i have resentments about this. My boyfriend only sees him about 3 days a month, and he could come visit us in our new location where i would be much happier and healthier. I feel like i am wasting my 20's waiting for a child to grow up that isnt mine nor do i particularly like.

I am about to finish a trade school in a couple months, and i will be working making decent money for the first time in my life, which would mean i will finally be able to finance my move. My plan is to stay only one more winter here and leave because i simply cant take it anymore.

I know this may sound weird, but i can feel myself changing and growing rapidly at this stage of my life. I keep feeling this unexplained calling for me to adventure. I think about what my life could be like if i just left everything behind here and started truly being the ruler of my own life. I love my boyfriend with all my heart, and he is my best friend. He has so much baggage (two kids to different mothers, no money, emotional baggage) and sometimes i feel like its mine as well... and i just dont deserve to be bogged down by someone elses problems. The things that seemed okay when i was 21 now is starting to seem like bigger problems to me.

I love my boyfriend, and would love for us to be able to have an amazing, free life somewhere else together. The question is how long do i wait and stay in this place i hate for my boyfriend to want to move with me? If he loves me, shouldnt he support our moving sooner rather than in an obscure amount of years not only for my happiness but for my health?

Am i not listening to my intuition enough? I feel like i want so much more.in my life.