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Old Jan 18, 2016, 04:42 PM
SarahSweden SarahSweden is offline
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Thanks. Yes, it is a kind of circular movement and leads to a situation which is very hard to solve. Yes, I think I am, that I will struggle to get them to like me and that that wonīt be enough. I have also felt many times that I have different views upon friendship and that many people seem to have a lot of friends and that itīs easy to feel left out. Perhaps youīve felt the same?

I am going to a T for evaluation sessions and I hope she will accept me. Itīs hard to get into therapy and I donīt know if I will qualify.

I want to connect with others to feel someone close, to be understood and to feel safety. Iīve never felt that except from when I was little of course. I feel very left out and lonely and it bothers me every day.

I donīt have any specific interests more than going to movies, eating dinner at restaurants, visit a theater or a movie. Iīve already looked for friends on the internet but no more permanent friendships developed.

Iīve just started the course and donīt know anyone yet. I think itīs hard when you read separate subjects and courses and not a whole study program.

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Originally Posted by littleowl2006 View Post
Hi there!
Sounds like a circular movement to me. I have my own personal history with loneliness. Are you afraid others might reject you? If so, why? Have you tried therapy? Why do you want to connect with others? Do you have things in your life that you want to share with others? Common interests?
A friend with a baby maybe isn't the perfect candidate for daily coffee dates, but people change, that doesn't mean that the connection is lost. It simply means we have to accept the change and maybe go through a little discomfort. I am sure there are people that are available if you let them in - what about your classmates? Have you tried talking about something that really moves you with them?
Hugs from:
littleowl2006