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Originally Posted by Grace205
Yes, thanks. I told him (using an "I-statement") that when he told the hotdog guy about our sex life, I felt humiliated and ashamed. He aplologized but then said I was being too "fragile". I think his mania just takes over and he says whatever he thinks, regardless of whose feelings get trampled. When I've talked to him about that, He says, "you're always criticizing me" and "that's just how I am. I say what I think.".
I think I need to talk to his psychiatrist to see what I can do to protect my feelings.
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What he's doing is called "stonewalling" which is a term used by social psychologists -- basically means that he's shutting out what your saying and completely disregarding it. It's one of the 4 key elements of a toxic relationship :/
I think you need to stop making excuses for him and address the core issues. You shouldn't have to be talking to HIS psychiatrist about what you can do to protect yourself.
I'm super sorry this is happening, I hope you're able to find a way to resolve this issue in your relationship.
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