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Originally Posted by marmaduke
Vanentina
my narc sister (she is an uber-rich, high society girl who owns multiple residences in new york city, in the hamptons, in other locations looked upon by the rich as acceptable parking spots, she has her own fashion line, knows everybody on the circuit, goes to all the best parties, is a perfect looking person having access to better plastic surgery than you've ever seen in hollywood, etc. etc. etc. doesn't it sound so terrible)
My Nsis is also powerful and confident.
So, taking all that into account do you believe she is;
A wounded soul, a secretly insecure frightened person. A terribly hurt depressed person hiding behind a facade of confidence?
This seems to be an explanation for Narcissism many repeat.
Sounds to me your sister is having a great time!
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That's actually from my post, about my sister.
She is indeed having a great time, but it's never enough for her. She's all the time complaining about how terribly boring and uneventful her life is, even whilst jetsetting around to spas and red carpet events. Those complaints are half humble-brag, and half thriving off having everyone around her working to try to please her. God bless those who have the heart to keep trying.
There were some wounds for her early on, and she had narcissistic traits from early on as well, so it's hard to discern whether the chicken or the egg came first, but ultimately I figure that both nature+nurture play a part: the DNA had to have been there in the first place for the traits to have existed, but outside events drew them out to play a more prominent part. The business about being insecure or depressed likewise ends up being a bit of a paradox.. who knows if she's any more so than anyone else, or is just so disinclined to deal with the feelings involved that she crafted this uber-fabulous life for herself that allows her to dodge them. We all find what works for us, ultimately.