Your T and my ex T sound so similar it hurts. I called her for closure recently and instead of being sorry for her reactions, instead of discussing things it was instead a call to go back and blame me, to try and twist my truth so that she came out looking ok. What really happened was that she couldn't handle my feelings and so she shut down and shut me out. How she worded it was that because I was defensive about something (which I had been in the past, never raised my voice, swore or did anything other than be annoyed) that was me trying to bully her, and she had to leave.

It is a form of gaslighting, trying to make it seem like our issues left them no choice and to paint our issues in a light that leaves them rosy. You have a right to be angry. What she did was to say she would never shut you out like that and to make you feel connected before shutting you out and then stating it was you who left first. Gross

Process it with new T for sure. Any good T would have been able to discuss your fears and feelings because that is what therapy is for. This was meant to be about you and not about her.

Sorry for the rant also. Our stories are similar!!

Good luck