I'm the husband with BP and it's difficult for me to live with me. My wife, though, has little interest in learning about my illness and its many manifestations.(We've been together 23 years/She's retired & I'm on disability.) She also has an undiagnosed mood and/or behavioral problem and she's inflicted many verbal wounds on me. My pdoc said that if my wife wasn't seriously insecure, she'd probably divorce me. I do wonder what she derives out of being with a man whose illness is severe and, up till now, untreatable. Our marriage is a mess.

Do talk with your husband's psychiatrist or seek out your own therapist. Difficult doesn't describe living with someone who has severe bipolar. Even if you understand that it's his illness that drives his behaviors, his words and actions wound you.