Thank you for replying Singer47. I appreciate you taking the time to respond
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Parents are different in how much they understand. Sometimes the best to do is to not expect understanding from them and take them for what they are. Even if they are not perfect, they do their best. New relations outside of home may perhaps be more fit for you because they don't know your story.
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I think that it would be a shame to restrict my relationship with my parents to superficial pleasantries. The parent-adult child relationship is different to other adult-adult relationships, but there must be some way to make them see that they are over-reacting? Nothing so far that I have said has changed the situation, and I feel sad to be hiding more and more of my life from them in response.
I am working on developing more/deeper friendships, but so far have found it difficult to move past the superficial stage. I am looking for quality not quantity of relationships. I have acquaintances and even superficial friendships, but I want someone/a couple of people I can be authentic with. I don't think that's too much to ask.
What do you mean by people who don't know my story? Depression etc was/is not who I was/am, but I don't see why I have to hide that from everyone. I'm tired of hiding myself, I want more authentic and accepting relationships, both with my parents and with others.
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By the way: Isn't throwing a cake a bit overreacting? It is not necessary to act out the feelings, only to feel them. I'm not trying to make you miserable, only trying to tell that the society might get a wrong impression of you if you do things like that at school, uni or at workplace.
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This made me laugh so hard - if you knew me IRL, you would get why the idea of me throwing a cake, or anything, is so funny!
I "threw the cake straight in the bin" meant as in I threw it away/disposed of it into the bin, not that I physically threw it through the air into the bin. It is a common phrase where I'm from.
With that misunderstanding, the rest of your reply didn't really resonate with me. To clarify, by 'acting out', I'm assuming you mean behaviours that are socially disapproved of ('temper tantrums' if you will) and not the process of acting out (demonstrating) a feeling, because people act out feelings all of the time e.g. smiling is a way of acting out happiness and crying is a way of acting out sadness?
*Willow*