It was Pandora's Box that opened the floodgates for all that. My husband calls it A**book. I had some unresolved feelings that I had told him about with exes. When that reconnection started, and I asked him if it was OK, he said 'you can do anything short of penatration'. I was so unhappy with him, that's why I reached out for the past. He gave me enough rope to hang myself. I wasn't looking for an affair. It turns out nothing happened. I actually admire his confidence, but what other man would have allowed that?