I made an interesting observation of myself this evening. H and I had gone to buy cat litter and in the store he asked if I had the store rewards card and I said no, did we get one? And he said in a snotty tone "Yes we did and I know you have it." And I told him to please not speak so me in such a condescending tone. But the observation I made, was that I was speaking in the same sort of tone back at him. So I gave him a big goofy grin after I realized how I sounded. And he said "I didn't know I sounded that way." And we went along with our evening, I gave the checkout person our phone number and we got the discount and all is well.

Self-awareness is a powerful thing. Maybe next time I'll be aware a little sooner and respond with a tone of self-respect instead..... even still, things have definitely been better in my marriage all the way around for the last couple of weeks.