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After learning during my last session, that my family and my husband are against me, I'm left with who can I trust besides my T?
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Your son? Your friends?
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I haven't slept well since the session. I have this fear that my husband is going to run off with my son or hurt me to get rid of me.
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I'm not saying your fears will happen, but we do have fears for a reason. There is a great book I would like to recommend to you called
The Gift of Fear, by Gavin De Becker. "True fear is a gift. Unwarranted fear is a curse. Learn how to tell the difference."
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I still struggle with why? what the heck am I doing that is so bad?
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Do you need to know why right now? You are not doing anything that is bad. You are taking steps to make your life better.
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I just feel the urge to take our savings and just go with my son. I could go to a hotel first maybe.
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If you are unsafe, then you should leave. There are battered women's shelters that you can go to, and they can also be good sources of advice on resources in your community. But if you think you really are safe and just reacting due to stress and hurt, then you should not leave the family home, as it can be difficult to get back in once you leave (e.g. if you and your husband separate, the one in possession of the house by virtue of living there often gets it). If it is intolerable being in the same house with your husband, can you ask him to leave?
If you are considering anything like separating or moving out or have grounds for fearing your husband will run away with your son, please consult a lawyer. Even just an hour's consultation can do a lot to inform you of your rights, things to watch out for, and things to avoid doing. It can be reassuring and doesn't necessarily mean you are considering legal action. It's just a way to get good advice.
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