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Originally Posted by Epichelper
Regarding your first question. There is no justice. Reality is what reality is, there is no good or bad. Only we give a meaning. ( Don't be angry about this, it will help you in the long run.
But this is only a problem for you because you're still not happy. Have no fear....you will be;-)
Because of the abbuse you create ways of thinking that are not helping you. This maybe a lack of faith in humans. ( Like I had) . This translates into patterns ( ways you behave) that produce the same outcome, again and again. You have to get new patterns.
I've also had an abusive upbringing. It won't take a long proces if you know what to kook for. Being positive is not enough.
You have to fix a couple of things first.
1) See reality exactly as it is.
2) Create a sollution.
After you have done this ( and I know it works). You will feel at peace and can do anything you set your mind to.
If you like I can make a longer post to help you.
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Yes, please do...my issue is it seems like so much work and I worked so hard in my abusive past just to keep the peace, stay safe and avoid things like the emotions from taking care of my sick mom that I feel like I want a guarentee that things will work if I put in the effort.
What set me back was holidays are hard for me and I made plans that fell through so it would not seem so bad.
I also asked like 8 people to see a film with me and no one would, so I was trying and being positive and I felt like if these changes cannot even get ppl to see a film with me, what hope do bigger challenges have..and I fell off the wagon after NYE when I was alone and lost.