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Originally Posted by Hopelesspoppy
The rawness, intimacy and vulnerability are heightened by the (usually) mutual attraction, it was intense for me, he spoke of giving up everything to run away with me.
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For me it was not mutual attraction, or at best it was very lopsided on the side of me desiring and longing for her but having that not returned, other than in some general way. I still don't know and that confusion, in addition to the rejection, is part of the damage done. I got the emotional seduction and the feeling of being exploited PLUS a fatal rejection. Feels like game over.
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Originally Posted by Hopelesspoppy
Now, finally, I am relieved. Hurt and scarred, traumatized and lonely. But beyond the point of going back into the quagmire that ruled far too much of my world for way too long. Not happy, far from content. Please do not read this and consider me a bitter victim, anything but. I knew better, or so I would like to think.
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am a bitter victim. Not gonna lie. Glad you are progressing though.
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Feeling validated and understood can be far too seductive and many therapists see an opportunity to satiate their own narcissistic egos; and often they don't even realize it. That is why I will not take action. A dear friend is having great and healthy results with him. He got spun up in his midlife crisis and I think it dovetailed with mine.
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So true about the seductive thing. Mine was feeding voraciously off this dynamic. I do want to take some action.