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Originally Posted by healingme4me
For the record, I'm definitely a 'her.' No worries though, the internet brings forth oodles of confusion over gender. See it happened often.
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Opps, my bad qwq
its okay, people mistake my gender all the time.
Or, at least, they used to *laughs*
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Originally Posted by healingme4me
Dysfunctional can be a variety of things. Whether there was a hostile homelife, neglect, gambling, alcohol, drugs, abuse. There's a myriad of ways homelife growing up can be dysfunctional. It was your original post that reminded me of a checklist that I read years ago about Adult Children of Dysfunction. Granted I've had nurturing and loving moments, in my childhood I also experienced neglect from a parent that liked to go out at nights gambling. My parents divorced when I was young. Not that divorce alone is a precursor for the totality of dysfunction, yet my parents had a tumultuous one, to put it mildly.
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*offers hug*
I see...I'll try to keep it in mind, I looked up a checklist, haven't gotten to reading it yet.
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Originally Posted by healingme4me
Worth looking into, if looking to resolve these feelings of inadequacy, which might bring peace to your soul about being trans. And at least for me, working through adult child stuff, has lead to better coping skills, a maturated outlook, better self acceptance.
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When it comes to trans specifically, it usually has to do with the physical changes that trans people tend to go through and the troubles being trans can bring to finding lasting (sexual) relationships.
If I wasn't so into sexual things i'd feel very lax about it, romantically speaking, I think. The pain of being rejected for bodily things, lacking malice, hurts, and I can't really portray anyone as a villain.
I have to learn to accept this, but its rather hard at times. I often feel like a lot of my attempts are split between romantic/emotional and purely sexual relations. lol
Not to mention my past attempts at romance haven't really been the best...
Not the worst I've seen, but I never felt like I made a good BF. If I make a good GF, time will tell, but sometimes its hard to have confidence in myself regards to this.
and the physical changes thing is just a bugger all in regards to how to deal with trans issues. People take big issue with medical interventions for such things (Often comparing it to body dysmorphic disorder and what is recommended to deal with that). And while I'm totally for at least hormones I feel conflicted about bodily changes being something I should or shouldn't do. lol
Part of this stems from the fact that until I felt trans, I hadn't really been ever close to gung-ho about any sort of physical changes, even things like tattoos I was pretty disapproving of. It's kind of forced changed my perspective.
My inability to come to a justified conclusion regarding that and my romantic issues tend to over shadow a lot of my positive aspects, press hard this inadequacy.
(I'm not asking you to give me answers regarding this, I'm just venting because it feels good to let out insecurities. But of course i won't stop you from coming up with a response. lol.)
I'll look through it and perhaps try to work through those things; would it be a good idea to bring family with me?
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Originally Posted by PianogirlPlays
I too take things way to personally. Hard to remember it is more about them than about me.
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I don't expect myself to become hardened steel, and i don't think you should either. lol *hugs*
But yes, I agree, its pretty hard to not take things personally.
Just find your limit and people that are willing to accept you regardless of your emotional sensitivity. finding the balance between challenging yourself and keeping yourself safe; its really hard for people that are naturally sensitive, so I feel you.
EDIT: holy crappers I completely misread what you just said Piano girl...
Derp.
Wellll, I'll leave it anyway. LOL