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Originally Posted by musinglizzy
Budfox, my T said this was not her "modality," but that she did it to help me trust her more and not feel so alone. She said when she thought I was to the point where I could sit there on my own, she changed it. This was after 5 months. She said it could foster dependency, and she wanted to stop before it got to that point. Honestly, I've had people help me see that it was more that she actually was feeling too attached to ME. Her actions made me think so. And then she either consulted with someone, or realized it, and backed off. There is a whole post on this, called "touch in therapy...it's gone" that includes some Emails from her as well. She was going through a rough time with her teenager, and I almost feel like she was getting from me what she wasn't getting from her angry teenager at the time.
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Ok I follow you. So she didnt discuss the change with you, was more of a unilateral decision on her part? That seems like a surefire way to make you feel infantilized. My T made some decisions
for me having to do with termination. Plunged me into feelings of childlike stupidity and powerlessness.
Quite sure my T was very attached to me also. And this was driving her to keep doing things to induce dependency, and then she was horrified at what she had created, and ultimately her way of backing off was to just end the whole relationship.
Hope you can sort through this.