Ok I follow you. So she didnt discuss the change with you, was more of a unilateral decision on her part? That seems like a surefire way to make you feel infantilized. My T made some decisions for me having to do with termination. Plunged me into feelings of childlike stupidity and powerlessness.

Quite sure my T was very attached to me also. And this was driving her to keep doing things to induce dependency, and then she was horrified at what she had created, and ultimately her way of backing off was to just end the whole relationship.

Hope you can sort through this.