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Old Aug 13, 2003, 11:37 PM
Zenobia Zenobia is offline
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It is hard moving from your home to somewhere far away to be with the one person you want to be with. You leave all your friends and family. You lose the support system that you relied on for comfort and for plain old fun. It is hard to adjust to the new place, the new people. I have gone through it and it was terribly painful. I missed my home for many years. It was like an ache in the middle of my heart.

It is easy to become addicted to a person on the internet. That person can say the right things and be perfect because that person only has to keep up the act for a limited amount of time. She can make you feel good and treat you like a perfect human being because she doesn't have to listen to you go to the bathroom every morning and doesn't have to deal with you when she is feel crappy and just doesn't what to have to be the perfect partner because she is just to damn tired.

My advice, having been in both the situations you have spoken of, end your internet relationship. Go to a therapist and deal with your feelings about your move, your wife, your life. Face it head on because if you do not come to an understanding of what went wrong this time you will be doomed to repeat it over and over again. You might as well put the effort into the first marriage rather then in the 3rd or 4th. Trust me, the effort is worth it.
Carrie

<font color=green>Not knowing when the dawn will come, I open every door.--Emily Dickenson