With the new information that your husband was the one pushing the counseling, I am a little concerned. It sounds like he thinks that in order for the two of you to have a good marriage, you need to get along with his parents. Perhaps he feels like he is "stuck in the middle" of the conflict between you sometimes.

The thing is, this is not the case. In a marriage, there is no need to get along with the in-laws. There should be no middle. One's spouse (and children, if there are any) comes first. If one's parents are acting in a toxic way towards one's spouse, it's time to say, "Until you can treat my spouse with respect, we can't have a relationship anymore."

Now, if counseling can help the spouse and the in-laws come to this position of mutual respect, great! But it doesn't sound like that's what's happening here. It sounds like you go into therapy and bare your soul to these people. Of course you do--you are a nice, honest person and you just want to get along.

But consider that your in-laws may not be nice, honest people and that their objective may not be to get along. Instead, they use what you disclose in therapy against you as ammunition. In this case, therapy is not helping. It's giving your in-laws juicy bits of information in their battle against you.

I don't intend to be mean or insulting by saying these things, and it's entirely possible I'm misunderstanding the situation. I honestly hope you do what's best for you. But I wonder if this group therapy with your in-laws is just making things worse.

Are you going to couples counseling with your husband? Perhaps that may work out better.