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Originally Posted by Angelwngs25
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So, I have this friend on Facebook who says she has PTSD from 9/11. I think she's making it up, because I think she enjoys having people feel bad for her. Here's the weird conversation we had about it. I am withholding her Facebook name for her own privacy. Can someone please explain to me how she can have PTSD from 9/11 when she wasn't at ground zero and it didn't actually affect her personally? I mean I was 13 when that happened and I remember it like it was just yesterday every year and on that anniversary every year I cry a little about it. But for God f'ing sakes I don't have PTSD from it. Someone please explain why on earth this could possibly affect her so badly that she has PTSD from it?
Her:Anyway to answer your question, I actually do have PTSD
Me: Have you been formally diagnosed? Just curious.
Her: Yeah, I don't believe in self diagnosis.
Me: Are you comfortable saying what caused your PTSD?
Her: 9/11, and my mom constantly beating me as a kid, I am very hyper aware.
Me: What does hyper aware mean?
Her: I am more wary of my surroundings and sounds.
Me: What happened on 9/11 that caused your PTSD if you don't mind me asking?
Her: 3,000 people died and America went on lockdown?
Me: I this, but I was 13 when that happened and I remember it like it was just yesterday and it bothered me and I cry about it every year but I'm almost positive it has nothing to do with my PTSD.
Me again: So, I don't understand why it would have cause you to have PTSD about it.
Her: Any time I see a picture of it at night I have vivid flashbacks of the event, as if I am inside one of the towers, these flashbacks cause me to sleepwalk and most of the time hurt myself.
Her again: 9/11 was a mark of loss of innocence for me, and I'm sure a lot of people have gotten PTSD from the event, especially those that were there.
Me: Yeah, I understand people that were at ground zero having PTSD, but I don't understand why you would have it in the least bit. It's confusing to me.
Her: Well so is that hold possibly sexually molested by my dad thing you said, but you don't see me poking you about it.
Me: Um, ok. I don't understand what that has to do with anything.
I am totally at a loss for words you guys. This is literally baffling to me, and honestly I really don't trust her that she even has PTSD. And it pisses me off that she is clearly claiming she has it when she really doesn't. I have PTSD (from when my dad abused me Verbally, Mentally, Emotionally, Physically and possibly even Sexually) and I don't appreciate people who claim they have it.
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there are new diagnostics now for mental disorders PTSD now includes a diagnostic that states a person can have PTSD if someone close to them has gone through a traumatic event. if this person on facebook has a relative or close friend who went through 9\11 or has lost someone in 9\11 then that person can have PTSD.
my suggestion is if facebook posters seem to trigger you right now maybe its time to take a break from facebook. thats how I handle it when I notice what I see and those I know on facebook are triggering my emotional responses like anger, disbelief of their problems, questioning other peoples lives and whether other people have mental disorders.
line in the sand is no matter how well we know someone there will be things about our friends and their friends lives that we do not know...i mean when you think about it I dont share every little tidbit of my life with my friends and family, strangers. even my co workers do not know about every single tidbit of my life and if reading my personal facebook account would be absolutely shocked, disbelieving, questioning simply because they do not know what is going on with in my body and mind unless I choose to share it with them.
most of the time when I am on facebook I approach it how ever I would like others to treat me...example I dont take my friends and their friends posts from facebook and post about them other places because I think about how I would feel if someone did that to me. instead I send them a private message asking them if there is anything I can do to help, I ask them if they can clarify their post for me.
example i have MS. i saw a post by someone that stated they had MS. I privately asked them how they were and if there was anything I could do for them. They told me they diagnosed based on what criteria and they were putting it out there on facebook hoping someone with it would contact them to explain the test results. and whether they underwent a treatment option that they did not include in their post.
sure theres going to be people who will post about non exisrtent mental problems but there is a facebook "game" going around asking people to take the mental disorder quiz and the quiz tells them something like you have depression, you have ptsd.
my point only that person from facebook knows what their problems are and why they are choosing to come out in the open about having PTSD. its not up to me to question someone elses validity.
just like I may not agree with your lifestyle that you have previously posted about but I dont go to facebook saying theres this girl on this website...I treat you respectively by accepting that is you and this is me.
Im going to be a bit blunt here angelwings...you have posted you have bipolar and are manic,.. Im wondering if this can be affecting your perception. I wonder this because recently I was in manic phase and my own perception of posts and my reaction to posts here have been off. ...tip the moderators have been a great help to me this past few weeks with my perception of posts and such.
heres an experiment to try... go back and read your past posts. when reading them ask yourself is this something I would want someone else to say to me or do with what I post. when I did that with my own posts (I keep copies of my posts saved on my computer) I realized I was having some major perception problem sand I needed to slow down, look at things from reality not my erratic emotions. not saying it's easy. its not. when in bipolar state of mind its so easy to react first when manic. hopefully your manic phase will pass so that these facebook posts that you are posting about, are not bothering you so bad.