I previously had posted about my fiance's potential mental disorder (I say potential because it hasn't been officially diagnosed) AND his lack in understanding mine. It's been months already since I've tried to help him understand my disorder and help him cope with it as well (which I think is unfair and exhausting to me because I feel like I have to focus on his mental stability instead of my own). He has quite a lot of anger issues and mental illness runs in his family. He says he's gonna go to therapy but he gets REALLY defensive when I even insinuate he might have a problem (he makes such a big deal about it that he makes ME feel inadequate for being mentally ill and acts like he's more "normal" than I am). It's really hard for me to deal with him because he has sooooo much baggage from earlier in his life and he refuses to acknowledge anything or gets defensive about it and I feel like I need to constantly "fix him". How do you try to make someone see that therapy does not mean you're "crazy" and that he has severe issues and he's being extremely selfish not considering how depressed it's making me feel. Now after a year of not even needing therapy, I now find myself looking for one to learn how to deal with him!. What do you do when someone doesn't "see" himself?

FYI, I have Borderline Personality Disorder.