I cant be sure he wont find another excuse. He is perpetually low on money due to his two child supports. He works extremely hard, but gets paid too little for his job because he works for his abusive stepfather who pays him less than he deserves and knows he wony quit because he doesnt have the money to be a contractor himself. My boyfriend hates working for him, and is always complaining about it, but claims there are no other contractors to work for for the same money. This seems like a deafeatist attitude to me, because there are always options if youre miserable. He has absolutely no money saved and isnt in the process of saving. I feel like if we were to move together i would have to save enough for both of us to go. He claims he wants to leave here, but wont commit to a set amount of time no matter how many times i hint at how sick i am in the winter and.cant wait to move. He just smiles and says "i know you do."

I guess i should just focus on saving money for myself to go, and once i have at least some funds tell him my plan so its at least solidified in his mind. If he doesnt take it seriously... well then i guess thats my answer. I would never want him to move for me if he didnt want to go. I would understand if he wanted to stay for his son (he has as much custody as he can, its not as though he is neglecting him). But i cant betray myself.by staying in a place im not to be anymore waiting for his kid to grow up all the while im losing my 20's feeling unfulfilled.