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Originally Posted by Epichelper
Take a look at your values, what you want in life. You love each other, but if you both want different things it will get complicated.
"If he loves me, shouldnt he support our moving sooner rather than in an obscure amount of years not only for my happiness but for my health? "
He could say the same thing. You shouldn't make the person you love do anything. If that is the case, and there is résistance. Take the time to precisely look at WHY there is resistance. This might not be what he sais. It could be something else.
Ask questions. Do not point fingers. Try to understand his point of view. Maybe he is worried about something. Try to find out what is really going on.
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He is worried about making his son feel abandoned. He is worried about his financial.stability if he moves... i totally understand this. I would never want him to move if he wasnt in it. Its just confusing and frustrating when he tells me he wants to marry me and move with me somewhere else, and then gives me a nondescript amount of years until we can move when he knows i am dead serious about needing to. I guess i dont feel taken seriously. Maybe he feels like hes so stuck in his life here that he cant even make a commitment to himself. Id just like him to be honest with me, and if he is, start taking it seriously.