Because of my sensitivity and way of thinking, I sometimes say, I am not ready for a relationship and marriage, because I might hurt my partner and potentially my children. But at the same time, what if my partner and children could help me tame those behaviors and thoughts? Once I read someone expressed similar fears that he was negative and afraid of his children to inherit his negativity, but then he continued to say that he was wrong, his children have brought to his life joy and light. So may be a relationship is a place of growth and change for both partners as you all implied. Thanks