I equate love and being wanted with sex. If my boyfriend doesn’t want to have sex I get distraught. I will sometimes start crying about it. I’ve always had issues with sex this way. I was sexually abuse as a child, so that is where BPD has stemmed from for me, and maybe these issues. A stereotypical man loves sex, so it just boggles my mind that my boyfriend doesn’t always want it. I wish it didn’t make me feel inadequate. I am not sure how to cope with this.