From your description of him I would say the therapist is right. A narcissist/sociopath.
If they feel control slipping away they get angry.
They lack empathy. Best to keep the children away from him if possible.

When I asked for a divorce my ex started to act very strangely. Like standing in the dark in front of a full lenth mirror staring. For ages. Things got very creepy.
I didn't feel safe so l started sleeping with a knife under my pillow. 😨

He'd never treated me nicely, he ignored me when he did speak it was to threaten, complain or ridicule.

So glad when I got away. Just frustrated I wasted so much time with him.

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