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Originally Posted by magicalprince
Yes I understand. I don't really know the answer right now. I feel more at this point that the principle of a relationship in therapy is always SOME kind of illusion. Not 100%. But, the feelings may be real and mutually created but probably somewhere there is an illusion that is allowing them to take on the form they have taken. Healthy feelings embrace and accept the limitations of the reality. So maybe the test is whether or not a T actively encourages the client to understand and accept the limitations of the therapy as soon as they realize that that may be difficult for the client. When T's gratify, ignore, encourage or invite client's feelings, they definitely do the opposite and damage the client.
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Yes some kind of illusion. And also some serious confusion. What is the relationship? I still don't know. Neither this nor that.
Agree about the gratify/ignore/encourage/invite thing. But how many T's are mature enough and aware enough and skilled enough to pull that off? And I still do not know what a successful version of this looks like at all.
I think what is driving me insane is that therapy left me so messed up that I most certainly need help. But help from a therapist?
Don't be swayed by my cynicism. I'm just venting.