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Old Jan 23, 2016, 02:16 AM
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I'm sorry this is long! I need some advice.

I have a friend who is quite the liar. She lies a lot to get attention, and it has worked. There are many people who consider her inspirational, relatable, etc, etc, because she publicly talks about her made-up struggles online.

I care about her, she's been my friend from childhood but I cannot trust her anymore. Because I thought what she'd been telling me was true.

She never treated me like a friend. She's always been aware of my struggle with mental illnesses, and she used to be the person I'd go to when I was having an episode. And instead of listening to me or comforting me, she'd try to make my situation about herself and how she's been through it and managed to overcome it (when she hasn't!).

I feel like I've spent my entire life being her therapist more than her friend. All I do is listen to her (now fake) life-stories and comfort her. But I loved her and didn't mind, but now I feel betrayed.

1. She's been lying all along that her friend passed away. She used that story all these years as the "catalyst" for her so-called mental illnesses. She'd fake flashbacks, and make fake blog posts about him. But I found out.. he isn't real.

2. We talk on Skype a lot (without webcam) and she constantly talks about self-harm and suicide and creates fake scenarios that make it seem like she's attempted! When she's actually just at home bathing in the attention she's getting. I've gotten so triggered by these events, I can't even explain.

3. She's lied about people abusing her. She's made fake profiles for her fake characters. She's stolen pictures online and claimed they were pictures of these people she created.

4. She steals art and literary work from not-so well known artists and claims them as their own on Facebook, to get positive feedback from people.

She lives a very happy life. She's lied about her family being dysfunctional, she has tons and tons of friends, everyone loves her. She's doing great things in life. I have nothing, my entire life's been ruined by my mental illnesses, and I didn't care... until I found out she'd been lying this whole time.

I devoted my time and love towards her. I ignored my own pain to comfort her. And they were ALL LIES. And she never, not once cared for me. That's what hurts me the most.

I don't know what to do. Should I confront her? We hardly see each other face to face, by the way,since we live quite far from each other now. We usually talk on the phone or on social media.