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Originally Posted by Shy Introvert
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First of all, how did you find out that she lied about all those things? Some lies are so obvious, that it's laughable, but some aren't so obvious. Did you ever call her out on her lies? If so, how did she respond? I used to have a former best friend that was a total drama queen. She was great at first, but then I started to realize that she'd often say HUH all the time when I was talking to her as if she wasn't really listening to me.
She'd then kind of disappear and say that she'd have no time for friends when a new guy came into her life. She talked about herself way to much and would interrupt me quite a bit. She was so rude! She'd also lie about how much weight she supposedly lost, but it was very clear that she was at least 50 or more pounds heavier than what she stated. She was disappointed when I saw her after she claimed to have lost 30 pounds.
She still looked the same to me and she told me that everyone told her that she looked smaller, and for me to not notice that baffled and kind of upset her. OK, whatever! I was nice and told her that her arms looked smaller, kind of, and she was like, what? My arms look smaller? She was clearly upset that I didn't compliment her in the way that she wanted me to, ugh! She didn't contact me for awhile after that. She turned out to be quite passive-aggressive. And she didn't take any criticism well at all! And nothing was ever her fault, not ever!
Wow, she is what is known as a toxic person. She is NOT a real friend at all! She is a liar, a user, and a manipulator. She sounds like she has a narcissitic personality disorder. True friendship is about honesty and a fair amount of give and take most of the time.
I agree with what the person above me stated 100%. Move on. Forget about her. Delete her on FB or any other site that you are on. Block her email and number too. It sounds harsh, but she is clearly causing you a lot of mental anguish and is doing nothing for you now.
I've been through similair situations, but nothing as severe as what you described. Some people have an insatiable need for attention and validation. You are not her therapist. The it's all about her and how she's so "great" and "talented" or whatever facade is toxic. Cut her off for good and even if she finds a way to contact you, ignore her. People like that rarely ever change. Like I said, you are not a friend to her. She is just using you and other people to feel better about herself. It's really pathetic and immature, but it is what it is.
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It's comforting to know that you guys can relate to what I'm saying! I've been wanting to cut her out from my life for years, but I've been back and forth on this for a long time because she's been in my life for so long, she talks to me (about herself) every single day. I don't know how to go about doing it. I still care about her even though she's horrible to me, she's like a sister to me. And I've been hoping she'd come clean and tell me, or that she'd give it up and change. I don't know if I owe her an explanation. We have many mutual friends (I'm not very close to them though but they know me nonetheless). And I'm scared of her too. I'm scared she might attack me for abandoning her. I don't even know why I care about her.
I found out she's been lying through a bit of stalking. Casual questions to her closer friends, and people who she claimed were connected to these fake people in her lives. I brought up these fake people in conversations and said, "I probably got their names wrong" or that I was "thinking of a different friend" and they'd not ask. Also searching for the source of the stuff she'd stolen, etc, etc. I sound like a nutter, but I've spent a long time making sure she's been lying because I still can't believe it. But now I'm 110% certain.
She pretended to have mental illnesses and told me she'd been getting treated for it, and it's a long story but I found it that was fake too. Or maybe she is struggling with something but is unaware.
Your friend sounds a lot like mine. My heart started beating so fast reading your story. Hahaha oh man I'm really affected by this. She really does treat me like a therapist.