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Originally Posted by Le.Monsieur.S
For me, I guess subconsciously there is something telling me to get nervous and anxious in social situations, where they play as cues for a pattern of thinking, but I am not aware why those cues trigger anxiety and nervousness. It just happens automatically and instantly.
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Fair enough Le.Monsieur.S.
Maybe this thought might help to discover the fear that triggers it.
Anxiety is about fearing what might not go our way.
If we knew it will go our way, then we will feel okay and safe, because there will be no surprises, no unknowns, no not what to say or do.
So, the fear is about not feeling okay when (people, places, things, and situations)
don't go our way.
If only we could learn to cope with things not going our way.
If only we can accept anything that comes our way, if we like it or not. Imagine feeling okay regardless of what happens next. Wouldn't that be good.
It can be achieved if we:
Learn through self-honesty that we really are okay.
From that okayness, one discovers it is okay to not feel okay.
It's okay not to feel okay.
It's a paradox to remember, because it helps us to test the waters and discover that the paradox is true.