yes, the past is past.....sounds like what you need now is a good dose of self-esteem so that you know you are ok now & you have made the needed changes & don't have to worry any more about loosing friends.

You need to know yourself just like SeptemberMorn said. Knowing yourself & who you are & that you are ok & nothing needs to be changed other than what you realize over time which is something you will point out to yourself & not that someone else points out to you. When you get into positions where people are telling you what you should be like & what you should do & try to back it up with a threat.....that is a HUGE RED FLAG!!!!!!

Those are the people you should be running away from at full speed. People like that aren't needed in anyone's life & if the people around her aren't wise enough to know better,,,,,you are now.

Good to drop all relations with that family for your own mental safety. It would be like a slow poison otherwise. You are doing the right thing don't second guess yourself.
Debbie