I split with my daughters father 4 years ago after 10 years together, married for 9. He has since had another child with someone else but this is of no consequence to me.

When we first got together I knew he had a son, then admitted later to a daughter, then I found out his ex was pregnant when he left. I was genuinely in love with him and accepted him as he came. But then just after I had our daughter some woman appeared at his mums house with a child he said he never knew existed. This wasn't while we had been together.

Throughout those years together, I watched as he failed to see those kids, provide financially for them or do anything for them despite me telling him he needed to be involved.

I've recently found out he and his mum and family are in touch regularly with all his other children, but not my daughter and it upsets me so much. His mum keeps in touch with these other mothers and goes to see her grandchildren, but literally never ever speaks to me or comes to see my daughter. Since he left he has always had unrestricted access to her, told him at any time he can see her but he chooses to see her maybe twice a year.

I don't want to start up any arguments about any of it but it's just not fair. Why does my daughter lose out on a father when his other children get to be in touch all the time? I always knew his mum never liked me when we were together, but whether she likes me or not its not my daughters fault. They're the ones losing out on being with an incredibly clever, funny, talented little girl so more fool them but I just don't see why she needs to be excluded.

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