my oldest is in college and he's neutral I think. he's just glad to be gone and away from the dysfunction.

my second oldest told me that he agrees with his father about me causing drama and chaos for the family constantly.
I don't have a lawyer. and again, if I decide to fight against him on this I can tell things about him that would make a judge definitely think twice about giving him custody. I'm not really worried about that. my thoughts right now is that maybe I should just leave everyone alone. maybe I should give them a chance to have a life without the drama and chaos......