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I know people you might consider shy... whose self esteem is just fine as long as they do not second guess themselves and try to be something they are not. A suggestion I have, similar to the above poster - put yourself in situations, activities - you enjoy. You do not have to try and talk to anyone... when you are doing something you like someone may be interested in talking/meeting you... if not, it's not a loss, you are still doing something you enjoy.
Others may want to "work" on their shyness or self image... cool.
It's a sad life to try to continue to be something you are not - embrace "who you are" and if you want to make changes - they need to make sense to your life not anyone else's judgment of life.
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“A person is also mentally weak by the quantity of time he spends to sneak peek into others lives to devalue and degrade the quality of his own life.” Anuj Somany
“Psychotherapy works by going deep into the brain and its neurons and changing their structure by turning on the right genes. The talking cure works by "talking to neurons," and that an effective psychotherapist or psychoanalyst is a "microsurgeon of the mind" who helps patients make needed alterations in neuronal networks.” Norman Doidge
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