Hello again sensative. Wow, that's terrible! Has she always been like that or not? Have you ever told her to get help? I would. I'd be firm but gentle and tell her that I'm very concerned about her behaviour. I'd flat out let her know that her lies are hurting your relationship with her. And so is her attention seeking behaviour.

If you're that scared of her and you don't want to be direct with her due to the fact that she might do something crazy, then do the slow fade. Pretend to be busy. Sooner or later she might just end things on her own due to sheer frustration of you no longer being there whenever she needs you.

She'll start to focus on other people instead. She apparently has other friends in her life, or at least other people who'll give her the attention she so desperately needs and wants. Is she doing drugs? It sounds like she might have some delusional disorder, or that she is just a narcissitic person. She is draining you mentailly, and you know this is not a healthy friendship.

You need to take action asap in some way like I stated above. I've had the slow fade done on me, and it hurts like hell and made me upset as I don't think that I really did anything wrong. It's mean, but like I said, if you do that, she'll get frustrated and move on probably if you do that.

I stopped contacting people after I realized that they weren't returning my calls or emails, and flaking out on me more than a few times when they hardly did that before. I got the hint after awhile.

You are enbablng her toxic behaviour in a way by continuing to give her attention IMHO. I hope that you're not offended by that. As for my "friend", she stopped talking to me after I called her out on her b.s and how she was hurting me in a long email. I did leave her a v.m too telling her that I was hurt by the fact that she flaked out on me 3 times in a row which was unlike her. I also told her that a real friendship is not one sided and I felt like I was contacting her all the time and that she wasn't making that much of an effort anymore to contact me.

I was direct but not mean (but she is sensitive, so she probably was hurt by the truth). So I had to let her go. Apparently she had some issues and she did stuff that I thought was morally wrong such as having an affair with a married man. She justified it by telling me that he was going to leave his wife. That never happened, and things didn't last. She was all about herself after awhile and her health issues, relationship issues, blah, blah, blah.

She was pretty rude and insensitive to me a few times after going through some hard times. She got really paranoid when I tried to cheer her up by asking her if it's O.K to stop by to give her a Christmas gift. I asked her if it was O.K to stop over. We live close by each other. I also told her that she could stop by my place to get it if she wanted to.

She then freaked out on me and told me to not stop by. I was hurt by that. I never did that unannounced! She was in the process of getting divorced, she had to move back home with her crazy mom, she was unemployed and broke, her other best friends mom died a few weeks after her dad did, and she got diagnosed with lots of health issues. I think that she was jealous of me for being better off and married. She thought that I was the needy one after she told me that she'd shrivel up and die w/o a guy to love in her life. Ugh!

That's not healthy at all. I told her that I thought she wasn't really happy for me. I was always there for her, so that wasn't fair at all. I felt bad for her, and I was a very good friend to her, but sometimes you have to let go of relationships to where the person starts to consistently behave in a selfish, rude, disrespectful, and shady nature. With the way she was going on about stuff like high blood pressure, you'd think that she was dying of cancer. I'm not kidding. It was to much! She always had SOME drama going on in her life, and I think most of it was grossly exaggerated.

Sorry if this upset you. I hope that this didn't affect you as much this time. Please take my advice. If you have a therapist or other friends that don't know her, try to get their opinion on what you should do. Good luck with everything!