I don't know. he says he's better when I'm not around. he has tended to not give them the attention they should get and just be tied up in his mental demons, (which always happen to be me) BUT he says that he so much better with that when I'm not around. I'm so lost and alone right now. I don't know how I got to the point that my own kids are ready for me to just go away....I'm a loser really!!!