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Originally Posted by Le.Monsieur.S
When you look at the people in the eyes, what is going on in your head? like do you think that looking at people in the eye makes me look more friendly, it is out of curiosity, or it just happens unconsciously?
For me I am very self-aware of myself, and everywhere I look, there is some negative thought that I will be judged.
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You know, I was not always looking people in the eyes. I have an eye problem - I don't see well with my left eye and my eyes are a little crossed. Since I was bullied at school A LOT because of my eyes being slightly crossed, I stopped looking people in the eyes. I would actively avoid eye-contact because I thought they would think that I am a freak or retarded. It took me years to realize that my eye problem was not a big deal at all and that most people don't notice it.
I look people in the eyes to acknowledge their existence. I don't have any real reasons to avoid eye contact (now that my crossed-eye paranoia has been solved). I sometimes avoid eye-contact with people that look like they would like to chat but mostly because I don't speak the local language well and I am a little self-conscious about it.