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((((almedafan))))
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After learning during my last session, that my family and my husband are against me, I'm left with who can I trust besides my T?
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Your son? Your friends?
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Yes I do have my son and his friend nicholas today for a few hours. They are a breath of fresh air.
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I haven't slept well since the session. I have this fear that my husband is going to run off with my son or hurt me to get rid of me.
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I'm not saying your fears will happen, but we do have fears for a reason. There is a great book I would like to recommend to you called
The Gift of Fear, by Gavin De Becker. "True fear is a gift. Unwarranted fear is a curse. Learn how to tell the difference."
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I will look into this book thank you sunny
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I still struggle with why? what the heck am I doing that is so bad?
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Do you need to know why right now? You are not doing anything that is bad. You are taking steps to make your life better.
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I want to know because there must be something about me that is unlovable...I know that sounds negative but this has happened my whole life. It can't be by accident.
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I just feel the urge to take our savings and just go with my son. I could go to a hotel first maybe.
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But if you think you really are safe and just reacting due to stress and hurt, then you should not leave the family home, as it can be difficult to get back in once you leave (e.g. if you and your husband separate, the one in possession of the house by virtue of living there often gets it). If it is intolerable being in the same house with your husband, can you ask him to leave?
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This is good information. I do plan to see an attorney soon. I just need to find one. I think maybe I had the episode in the closet because of the intense feelings after the session and realizing that my husband has not been helping me he's been hurting me. all this time, he was telling me things were in my head and my fault...
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