Stop thinking that everything is determined by what your parents did, or didn't do. You are giving them too much power and control.

Of course, we are affected by how we were treated as children. But thinking of yourself as a helpless victim becomes a self-fullfilling prophecy. It's really dangerous thinking - you'll end up deriving all your identity from having been your parents' child. Let it go and move on.

Your parents could use the same excuse and say all of their behavior was the result of how your grandparents treated them. We could end up blaming everything on Adam and Eve.

The insight that analyzing your childhood can give is valuable, but don't let it dominate your thinking.