Before your new girlfriend “found” the pictures, how often in the last 3 years since the divorce, have you actually taken them out of the closet to look at them? Was it on a regular basis or just every now and then?

This incident has upset you, not because your girlfriend asked you throw out the pics of your ex, that is a completely different issue, that is a you and her issue, not a you and your ex issue.

It is because of the realisation that it really is over with you and your ex, time to move on, looking back for the last 3 years regularly at those pics, has kept you right there, in 2004.

Reality has finally stepped up and kicked you squarely balls after 3 years of you using those pics as some kind of mental barrier to keep your fantasy alive. (Ouch that hurts been there)

One thing you kept hold off to hold on to that fantasy (the pics) and help suppress the reality boot is gone now, you have no defence against it, reality that is.

So now here you are, “playing outside of your safety zone” before you always had the pics to go back to too reinforce whatever positive feelings you still hold for your ex fuelling your fantasy for the last 3 years, now there gone, what you gonna do?

How can you still have feelings for your ex her if you don’t have them pics to remind you of the good times, don’t supposed you kept any from around the time of the divorce? Nah that would be crazy right?

Just a curious thought, what else did you keep that is personal to you and your ex, relating to the good times in the marriage? That is assuming you did have some good times, based on your reluctance to accept that the pics have gone, still have the ring? Something else maybe?