its nice to see you post wisewoman even though you are in such pain. you have gotten some great advice from others. bear in mind that if the situation is putting this much strain on you that you are having harmful thoughts then you may not be able to give this child the objective care she needs. theres no doubt you love her but sometimes love means letting go too.
alternatively would it be possible to have the doggies stay somewhere else for a month or so to keep them safe until the situation can be calmed down some?
i really hope this can be worked out for everyones benefit. just please make a point of taking some time to nuture yourself.
good luck and you know you have support here whenever you need.
biiv