healingme4me I get your (sarcastic) point. In short - yes, there are people who will use your weak spots to get what they need.
The thing is a bit complicated. We are a few people that moved to another country for work, so feeling a bit lonely, you don't have much time to get to know someone. This goes pretty fast and I am the kind who waste no time, gives a lot and expect life to be fair. All mixed with nostalgia for all the friends and (extended) family that you've left, you cling to somebody to feel close.
I always analyzed myself, cause my parents gave their best to obstruct development of my individuality - for them that was a threat.
So, all I want is to feel a bit safer in this new world, foreign language, and bring to the light my blind spots. Maybe the best way for it is to expose yourself and get hurt so you could learn sooner from it. I don't know...
Thanks all of you!