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Originally Posted by JustJenny
It depends what kind of issues you are talking about. I have a dandelion phobia. When I see a large dandelion I get very scared as if it can attack me. I start to sweat, my heart starts pounding and if the large dandelion happens to be very close me me I enter a panic mode. There were occasions when I would wander into a meadow and then cry for my mother (when I was younger) to come and rescue me. I had this ever since I was a child and I don't think this will ever go away. If you have something like that you should not try to fix it first as it may take way too long.
Is the fear of a serious relationship and having children the only issue you are concerned about?
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Actually, I am not scared of serious relationships and having children per se, but I am scared of hurting them, because I am very sensitive and have very low threshold to negative events and get angry, even though I rarely show it, and frustrated easily. I wonder if this will hurt them or them will help me becoming a better person! Also, I am not that outgoing, and sociable, and a bit shy and introvert. Do I need to change that before getting into a relationship? Sometimes I say to myself I am not ready, but then I'll say what if I couldn't change for a long time, and a relationship is the catalyst I need for change?