We're all a work in progress, I think its unreasonable to wait until we are perfect, that's never going to happen.


My bf and I both have our issues, when we first started seeing each other I was very messed up.


I ended an abusive relationship 9 months prior and had more baggage than I realized, and my eldest brother, whom I worshipped was just murdered.


3 months into our relationship my dad passed away too...


So I was not ready to accept love. We kept flitting from insanely inlove to me breaking up with him every 3 months for 2 years.


My MH stuff got understandably out of hand and I was dragging him down, drowning him fast.

But that was my mistake, I mistook him for a therapist instead of treating him like the wonderful supportive partner he was. A partner with his own struggles, someone who needed me too, but I was too consumed in my own pain to notice.


So we broke up.


A year later (in which I did alot of work on myself) we got back together and things were by no means easy, as we were both weary of each other, but we worked through it together, decided on boundaries and goals together and are still together 3 years later.


I understand your worry about your temperament too... I have a very volatile temper, always had it, but I will say this: My daughter has been theeee best motivator in learning how to keep it in check.