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Originally Posted by Singer47
He, he ...
There you can see.  We all see the world through our own glasses. So it is with parents, too.
When I said: «Parents are different in how much they understand. Sometimes the best to do is to not expect understanding from them and take them for what they are. Even if they are not perfect, they do their best,» I meant that some parents will never be able to go into a parent/adult-child relation. One will always be their child. If that is so in your case, you have to accept that.
My mother still tries to teach me how to do the dishes. It's rather irritating and I have asked her to stop. It took her a looooooooooooong time to understand that. Still there are things that are hard to live with in the relationship. I have told myself (years ago) that I have to accept her the way she is. When I try to adapt to that, life is much more easy.
Perhaps you should give your parents some more time and then decide how to continue the relationship with them ... |
Thank you for this. I am starting to realise that this might be the reality of the situation, that I have to accept that they aren't able to 'get it', but it is sad to think that. It is also difficult because they do not see our relationship in the same way and get upset with me when I keep things from them. But I think that is the best solution now.
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Originally Posted by Singer47
When it comes to new people in your life, it's your choice to tell or not to tell about former depression. Many people have lost their friends when they were open about it.
I see it more as a right to not speak about my depression! I do the job in my life. Others have to do the jobs in their lives. Nobody has the right to know everything about everyone ...
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I appreciate your point and I'm certainly not advocating telling the whole world as soon as I meet them! I basically tell nobody IRL anything about my MI issues because of bad experiences in the past...but I do still wish for 1 or 2 people in my life that I could be truly honest with and get support from. I am the type of person who will help others in any way that I can, I am regularly their 'armchair therapist', yet nobody is willing and able to offer me a bit of support now and again. I guess my only other option would be a therapist, but the cost is problematic...
Thank you for your reply!
*Willow*