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Originally Posted by ManOfConstantSorrow
All the same if you find yourself binning cake or its equivalent very often I wonder if you could look at it in a different way.
Often things go wrong, it is no big deal, in fact it is the exception for things to work first time or indeed every time. I find I generally have to do things, mend an electric socket, replace a headlight bulb on the car, fit a new tap washer about three times before I get it right. It is the just the way it is, I am clearly never going to earn a living as a 'handyman', but so it goes. I used to get miserable, cuss greatly, make bitter remarks ot the cat, and put the wife out in the garden and actually feel a failure over absurd little things like this, but patience and practice generally win the day.
Since you are presumably not a chef or perhaps don't claim to be an accomplished cook it stands to reason things will go wrong in the cake making department from time to time.
Therefore you laugh about it, decide what went wrong, and try again, perhaps you will fail again, perhaps not, but if you do again you will at least have failed better and that too is progress. And your mum might get off your case.
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Thank you for your reply! I am curious about your response though - why do you assume that this may happen "very often"? In the last, say, 50 times I have baked cakes, I have only need to throw 2 away - I do not see that as a regular occurrence. And that was because they were completely inedible - I have eaten many cakes that still tasted good despite them never going to win any beauty pageants!
Please do not see this curiosity as confrontational because it most certainly isn't intended that way. It relates to my experience IRL though - people assume that I am being negative when I do not see myself as that, and so any feedback would be appreciated.
For example, if I said that I could NEVER run a marathon, I would consider that to be negative or pessimistic because I
could run a marathon with dedication and the right training programme. However, if I said that I couldn't run a marathon TOMORROW, I do not consider that being negative, but being REALISTIC because I do not run at all and so would likely injure myself going straight to a marathon with no training. Now, to translate that metaphor to my real life, I feel that I am being
realistic about feelings and situations, but others (incorrectly, I feel) interpret it as being
pessimistic.
Seeing as the same kind of misinterpretations have happened in this thread, I am curious for, and would really appreciate, some feedback as to why, so that I could improve things both on PC and IRL. If I am using the 'wrong' words/not explaining myself properly (since it happens online too, it has to be more than just a body language issue), then I could try to improve that. However, if people are making assumptions based on their experiences (e.g. you assumed throwing cakes away was a regular occurrence for me, perhaps because this is your experience, or because this is a depression forum??), then I don't really know how I could change that??
Any feedback, and not just from ManOfConstantSorrow, would be appreciated.
*Willow*