My mom and I have had our difficulties in life. Partly because she does know best except doesn't know how to relay that information in a way that isn't a put down. She has always treated me like a teenager she has to control. My point is your daughter is fighting for independence, respectful treatment from you, and grasping at straws on how to obtain that.

Tell her you love her, want the best for her, and don't play into her dramatic nature. Let her know you'll be there for her, but bless her travel or move etc.

I pray you two can work through your differences and express the love you have for each other. Amen.