To all who responded.I am not suicidal or homicidal. Children with attachment disorder do need to learn that the parent figure will drop everything to be with them in a positive way. This means holding her when she asks for it, 24/7. It means sitting with her etc.

I agree with Debbie about she can't learn about how to treat animals with kindness if we give in but this morning I caught her torturing her hamster and last I looked at her she was in shock,(hamster) She is moving tomorrow to safe home.

Why fight for the child, because it took her a long time to ask me for comfort., she is trying to attach so hard, if sh goes she is never to have a chance again. The move will likely shut her down forever and she will be even worse and not willing to give anyone a chance again.

I do think I should kill my dogs because them they can't be hurt by her or have do deal with separation from the only homes they have known. Hubby disagrees and I do too. So many thoughts.

Yes these people were abusive, my friend never met any of them and saw it. They are into power and their way and that is what my friend said. I I do it their way then we will be ok. Play their game she says and take the abuse. So I shall. But it is abuse. Make no mistakes about it. Well back to bed for me. Little one is with sibs today and overnight. I arranged because I am such a monster. errrrrr.