SP - I find the group T's handling of this whole thing appalling. He clearly lacks the skills to work in DBT (my honest opinion). I've been through two full fledged DBT groups. When we had issues within the group they were handled incredibly well by the facilitators. I had a guy in one group who acted aggressively towards me and I started to feel unsafe. When I brought it up to the facilitators, he was dealt with behind the scenes and his behavior changed. When we had another person in the group derailing, it was clear our group wasn't where she needed to be. Nothing was done publicly, it was all handled out of our perception and the facilitators took on making sure the group was a safe space for everyone involved.

Your group T did not do this.

That being said, *because* he is incredibly unskilled, I caution against going back. I don't trust a T that can't deal with conflict in an appropriate way. I especially don't trust a T who can't effectively deal with a group of people all dealing with mental illnesses with varying symptoms.

Sometimes we can't get closure or get things resolved. This might be one of those situations. I wish you could get into one of the real DBT groups Do you think your current T could advocate on your behalf to your insurance? Just brainstorming.