I really hope you see this! you HAVE to pull her to the side and confront her about this and tell her exactly how you feel, in the most kind and respectful manner. I have dealt with a handful a bosses that had no communication or management skills. It may be hard for you to speak up but it's worse to suffer in silence!! You don't have to say much just briefly let her know how you feel and how she can better communicate with you so that you don't feel disrespected. No need to praise her, you owe her NOTHING, and when you do this she will have more respect for you!! So speak up even if your voice trembles.
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Originally Posted by AmyCake
Dear all, I need some advice in handling a difficult colleague who has been causing some problems for me.
This is a co-worker who is a senior nurse who has more years of experience than me. Under her expectations, me being a newbie, she expects me to perform the work fast, to clear the workload. Although i know that she herself also had unfinished work, but yet always impose her unrealistic expectations on me. backgrd info, we are working in a healthcare sector whereby she is a nurse and me a junior therapist.
so i have some qns abt this:
1) I have heard abt some stereotypes abt unmarried female nurses who have certain bad personalities and these seem to be true for her. any of you have encounter difficult nurse colleagues as well?
2) her having more years of experience, she has an impatient personality and likes to impose her authority on junior staff, although she is not my reporting officer. how shld i deal with such people? i want to equip myself with smart techniques to manage such difficult people
3) although i have been advised to ignore her, this is not possible, as we work in a team and need her inputs on a daily basis. i cannot just ignore her demeaning behavior and want to learn how to manage her bad behavior. i just wish i could be more assertive as a younger worker but need some advice in this.
4) any specific phrases or attitude that i shld maintain to deal with such difficult people? an additional input, she is also a busybody person who likes to eavesdrop my conversation with other colleague then criticize me for not having good judgement in my work, but i dun understand, because no one else has such critical comments except her. everything that comes out of her mouth is negative. i've tried to use "fake praises" on her but i think it takes time to take effect.
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