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Old Jan 25, 2016, 05:35 PM
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Originally Posted by Argonautomobile View Post
Hi AG,

It seems like you've been dealing with this issue for a while. Maybe it's none of my business, but I'm curious why this is concerning you? Do you want to cry, but can't? If so, why would you want to? Are you just wondering if it's normal not to cry?

To answer your questions:

Have you ever cried in therapy? (Either tears or full out crying)
Yes. Very first visit was the full-on Ugly Cry. There've been a few weepy sessions since then--just some tears and sniffling, not really crying.
How does your T react when you cry?
T offered tissue for the Ugly Cry. Now he just sort of sits there. It's not unpleasant.
How long did it take you to let go and cry?
First visit it wasn't a choice; I just couldn't help it. About 6 months (with a 2 month break in there somewhere) to open up about things I knew would make me sniffle.
Do you think it's normal for a client not to cry even when talking about painful things?
Sure. I don't always cry when talking about difficult subjects; sometimes I get snively about the fact that I can't find my socks. The range of "normal" is pretty damn wide.
Yeah I've been thinking about this for a long time. When I first started therapy I didn't really worry about it because I thought that as the time went on, I'll feel more comfortable and I'll start crying. Once a year hit though I was really confused as to why I haven't even shed a tear yet. I did tell my therapist that I've felt like crying because she asked and also admitted that I'm afraid to. Sometimes though I really do want to cry so that T sees just how painful something is for me. I came really close a month or so ago but just teary eyed, I dont think my T noticed.
Thanks for this!
Argonautomobile