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Originally Posted by AnxiousGirl
Yeah I've been thinking about this for a long time. When I first started therapy I didn't really worry about it because I thought that as the time went on, I'll feel more comfortable and I'll start crying. Once a year hit though I was really confused as to why I haven't even shed a tear yet. I did tell my therapist that I've felt like crying because she asked and also admitted that I'm afraid to. Sometimes though I really do want to cry so that T sees just how painful something is for me. I came really close a month or so ago but just teary eyed, I don't think my T noticed.
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Well, if you trust your T and feel safe with her, I don't think you have anything to worry about. Crying (to me, anyway) is a pretty out-of-control thing; it's sort of involuntary. Maybe the reason tears don't come in therapy has to do with being at ease and in control there? I'm pretty sure that's why I don't cry more in therapy, anyway.
Have you talked to T about wanting to cry so she can see that something is painful to you? Do you think that she won't believe something hurts unless you cry?